Let the Good Bugs Bite Tonight!

Let the Good Bugs bite tonight mom–this is how my daughter says goodnight.  I generally try to look on the bright side of things (Law of Attraction and all=-) and I don’t want to squash her creativity, but finally a few nights ago I said, “Honey, um….there really are no good bugs that bite people, like that just normally is not a good thing…so what are you talking about!?”

She said mom well these are the GOOD bugs and they bite you at night if you welcome them in. They fill you with love and trust and respect and good feelings and lightness, and then they leave after doing their duty. You have to welcome them in though, so let the good bugs bite tonight!

I went to bed thinking wow,,,,that I have never heard of, but what a beautiful idea…..I love my daughter more than life itself and this is a picture of her last weekend after running the 5K for “Make a Wish” foundation. She lets the good bugs bite every night I can tell you……

Laverty’s Life Link: Consider letting good feelings in when and where you least expect it today and see how it feels.WP_20150920_006

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Ahhhh….Four Season Living=-)

Winter white forestI have noticed that many people seem to talk about the weather….often…..

That has always confused me, because one can’t really change the weather, one can change where they choose to live or how they choose to view the weather, but most of us cannot actually change weather patterns=-) I found myself thinking about why so many people choose to live in Chicago, and yet complain so often and heartily about the weather that is simply a part of living in Chicago.

I was thinking about “Four Season Living” and the benefits that may almost be invisible. I wonder if living amongst the four seasons allows us to experience the natural ebb and flow of life….hibernation in the Winter–taking things a bit more slowly…birthing in the Spring and finding new pleasures and new life….living out loud throughout the crazy fun Summer….and then chilling out in the gorgeous Fall….

I spent 6 weeks in Hawaii one year and every single day was sunny and 75 with a little sprinkle of rain midday some days. It was GORGEOUS and beautiful, and I love Hawaii…and yet I don’t know if I could thrive there. I was raised on four season living, and I might die here as well=-) I enjoy raising my daughter in Chicago for many reasons, and I am realizing one of them is the beauty of experiencing all life has to offer with regards to the weather and the natural cycles….

I wanted to share this so the next time you might find yourself in some crazy Chicago weather….perhaps you can enjoy the ride it is offering….or change your ride.

Laverty’s Life Link: Consider the benefits of the weather pattern you choose to live in and enjoy them…or consider moving to an area that more closely matches your personality and desires!

Have you done any “new things” for 2015? I did the “Cube”!

100_6264I had blogged about doing at least one new thing a week in a blog earlier this year, and I wanted to see if you tried any new things this year yet!?

I found it was easier to do one new thing a week than expected. It came naturally, and I noticed that it gave me a positive charge when I did it! The new experiences were fun, exciting and sometimes simply new and different than my normal routine.

One of the new things was going onto the cube at the top of the Sears Tower. When I first heard about the “cube” I didn’t think it would be a big deal at all, but when I was up there and as I very slowly inched my way out onto the clear sheet of plastic, I was really quite scared!!!! I didn’t want to let my daughter know how scared I was, because she is naturally so brave, and I don’t want to spoil any of that within her with my fear of heights etc. We had so much fun doing different poses and per the picture, Ireland made herself quite comfortable!

I had been up to the top of the Sears tower one other time 18 years ago with a special newcomer to our great city, so going up to the top counted as well since it had been over 10 years=-)

Laverty Life Link: Notice what it feels like when you do something new—how is it different than you expected, what emotions do you feel and how can you share that with someone in your life so you can keep the dialogue going on doing “new things” and what impact that has on you?

Connecting on Crucial Conversations

Pink heart flowersJoseph Grenny wrote a wonderful book called “Crucial Conversations”, and I agree with the authors who state that the ability to have those tough, and at times highly charged conversations, is one of the most important skills anyone can have both personally and professionally.

Having charged conversations has been an area I have worked on through the years and will continue to work on….forever=-) It does not come naturally to me which is why I appreciate books like “Crucial Conversations”.

Their definition of a Crucial Conversation is one where the “Opinions differ and Emotions and Stakes are high”. If you find yourself on the brink of a Crucial Conversation personally or professionally, their first success strategy is to “Start with Heart”. My interpretation of that is to take a moment to breathe, breathe into your own body and connect with that loving part of yourself, so you can come from love about yourself as well as come from love towards the other.

Think about what you appreciate about this person and what you are grateful for with regards to this relationship.

This is not always easy to do, but if you can take a moment to breath and connect with your heart and their heart before having the conversation, it most likely will go at least a little better than if you didn’t.

Laverty Life Links: Notice if you have a Crucial Conversation personally or professionally and if so, take a moment to “Start with Heart”. Notice how the conversation goes perhaps differently than if hadn’t connected with your heart first.

 

A TV, a Hope and a Prayer….Only God knows how it happened

I will be revealing a bit about myself in this blog, and it is too funny and amazing not to share….So we have a TV from 1992–we don’t watch much TV, so it is fine for the occasional DVD movie etc.  I do a thing called Freecycle where you can give and receive things for free (it is AMAZING by the way!!!! I highly recommend the yahoo group=-).  A nice lady offered a 2002 Toshiba TV, and she clearly said it is too big for women to carry, and I would need 2 men to c100_5380arry it.  I

don’t have 2 men in my life that I would ask to move this TV, so something in my intuition said, just go for it with your daughter and see what happens. She was game as she wanted to get the TV out of her apartment (note it is 150 pounds and about 3.5 feet by 3.5 feet, so just a HUGE HEAVY BOX as you can see in the pictures!!)

We trekked over tonight, and I felt like somehow it was all meant to be, so I was kind of excited about the adventure. Firstly, the nice lady was an angel to allow us to try this and to help….then the nice maintenance man saw us with the TV and offered help into the car….and then it DIDN’T FIT IN THE BACK OF MY FOUR DOOR SEDAN. Honestly, I was about to give up at that point, but now the nice lady had her TV outside, and I am sure she didn’t want us to drag it back up again!!!! So they mentioned I should get a cab…but it didn’t fit into any normal and even one SUV cab we found (!!!???@#$%@#%$#$%).  So we called a big SUV cab and this VERY NICE man agreed to haul the TV alone while my daughter and I drove behind him to get back to my loft….

Angel #?? came over to help the cab driver lift it into the back of the SUV, and we were off….My daughter and I were able to use the dolly (that I got from a friend angel) and the story goes on…just angels popping up at just the right times….the TV is so huge once we got it home I was almost like, I am not sure if we can handle this in our loft but my daughter said oh yes….oh yes….we are keeping it=-)  So I hooked it up with the lovely Cable people on the phone, and it has really a nice picture!!!!!

What is my point…sometimes there are angels who come out of the woodwork and it is fun to take on adventures like this–if only to experience the goodness and kindness of humans….no words to express how nice all these people were….tears were shed and hugs were shared…..

Laverty Life Links: When have you climbed a big mountain and have literally felt like you were carried by angels throughout the process?  How was your life transformed as a result?

PS: Clearly we could afford a new flat screen TV with home delivery…but that wouldn’t be any fun, would it?! Well…. maybe the next time that would be a little fun=-)100_5383

Top 10 Ways to Destroy your Life using the Law of Repulsion=-)

Think about your past constantly.

Obsess about how you could have done things differently.

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Spend all day dreaming about your future.

Criticize and complain about your life.

Judge everyone.

Wish you could have someone else’s life.

 Believe that everything is someone else’s fault. Think you can get a new life by doing the same thing you have always done.

Blame your parents for your current life.

Wallow in self-pity for what God (or whomever) has done to you.

Laverty Life Links: Consider if you knowingly or unknowingly do any of these items which are truly self-abandoning and simply become aware of it when you do..and notice how you feel.

PS It was kind of funny bc i was looking at all of my pictures and images on file, and I don’t have anything to add to this blog…and I didn’t really want to add a picture to represent this bc often pictures are more viscerally impactful than words, so I wouldn’t want to add that to your consciousness nor mine!!!!  The iceberg represents many things to me and one of them is how something can appear small and almost innocuous on the surface, but deep down it is large and ominous…and that is how I think of some of these law of repulsion habits.  I did a.co class on this topic and one of my participants didn’t want to take this document home bc it was too negative–now that is someone who doesn’t let this stuff into her space=-)

 

Top 10 Ways to Harness the Laws of Attraction=-)

Consider yourself the luckiest person in the world no matter what is currently happening.

Love where you are in every moment.

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Practice gratitude for all of your blessings.

Accept your past as the gift it was meant to be—to bring you to who you are now.

Forgive another for things you perceive were done to you knowing they only lead you to create the life you were meant to have.

Visualize how you want to feel, how you want to be and what you want to create.Bless people you meet throughout the day.

Surround yourself with people and things you love.

Create habits that support your health and happiness.

Be aware of your thoughts, feelings and desires.

Laverty Life Links:  Consider which one or two of the above ideas you are willing to take on this week to see how it affects your life and how you feel=-)